Milestones of Master Chee...

Stonewalling was introduced to me early in my relationships with peers during my adult years after school. In Singapore, there's a term for that. I call it "Kenna diao" for no reason. At first, I was bewildered at why people close to me stonewall, are they being a menace for no reason? That was my first reaction, then I started noticing the different kinds of stonewalling. Sometimes it's harmless, a psychological reaction to sometimes unexpected. Sometimes to guard the self from conflict, holding back confrontational thoughts. Sometimes it's about establishing power and dominance. Sometimes it's about avoidance straight up.  The real reason can even be sometimes you yourself will never know.  Today I have learnt not to judge stonewall. If someone stonewall me, they may be from having a hard day, to being a straight up menace. I really don't care. It's your problem if you stonewall to cope. It's then my problem to evaluate how it's gonna be afte...

There’s a special kind of happiness found in the playground — the pure, unfiltered joy of running, climbing, and playing without a care. But as the years pass, that boundless energy naturally gives way to a quieter kind of strength: grounded wisdom. The secret to truly embracing both? Starting early. When I was 14, my neighbor Jason used  to wave to me from his porch while his two young kids ran circles around him. He was in his early 30s — laughing, chasing them, and somehow still had the energy to run and jump about in the playground. One day, he said something I didn’t fully understand at the time: “I’m glad I started early. I still have the knees for this.” I laughed, thinking it was just a joke about aging. But a year later, I began to feel the tiniest signs of my own body slowing down, and his words hit me differently. I found myself wondering: Why not start having kids earlier? Having kids when you’re younger isn’t about “getting it over with” — it’s about having the energy,...

Let them be who they are. Let them speak their mind, make their choices, and live their lives as they see fit — even if I disagree, even if I wish they would change. Let them be flawed, unkind, or even wrong in my eyes. I am not here to judge, or fix, or even correct any path. The more I try to control others, the more I tie my own peace to something I can never truly hold. So I release that grip. I let them be them. Let me be who I want to be. Let me choose kindness, not because it’s easy or because I’m guaranteed it will be returned, but because it aligns with the person I hope to grow into. My actions are not a mirror of others; they are a reflection of my values.  My character is mine to shape, my will is mine to choose.  And in that, I am free.

Forgive Outward, Heal Inward isn’t just a nice phrase. It is a mindset shift that can change the way you see yourself and others. When you choose to forgive, you’re not excusing what happened or pretending it didn’t hurt. You’re simply deciding that the weight of anger, resentment, and grudges will no longer be the chains you carry. Extending kindness and forgiveness to others can clear the space in your heart for peace. And in that space, self-kindness can finally grow within you. Being kind to others is not only an act of generosity. It is a quiet investment in your own character. Every time you choose patience over irritation, or understanding over judgment, you’re strengthening the part of you that sees the world with compassion. This doesn’t mean you have to agree with everyone or tolerate their behavior. It means you decide to be the person who adds gentleness to the world, even when it’s not easy. Over time, this habit changes your perspective, allowing you to see life less as a...

I find it fascinating that whenever this topic gets brought up in the middle of conversation. It always a way to stir each other up. Can be a good way, can be a bad way, it depends on who's asking the question, and the intention behind it. Thus, my answer sometimes ranged from, "why you suddenly ask me this, is that relavant?" in a defensive tone. All the way up to sharing the truth behind the story. PT1: WHERE'S MY COOKIE? I grew up in a Catholic primary and secondary school. Each year, there was half a day dedicated to mass. It usually takes place right before the final exams where the father/priest conducts a Mass. Mass consisted of priests facilitating the students on how we should behave during the event, santification of the tabernacle, singing of hymns and worship songs, performances in a form of chior and/or piano player. Usually, classmates around me would fall asleep the entire session. BUT NOT ME. OK la, I still fell asleep for most of the segment. But what...

This is me, back here back again updating my life. Writing about myself, to figure it all out. Why am I writing? For clarity of what I want. I publicize what I share, hide the rest I don't. I write, to realign my focus and walk towards a better path.  As of now, I try my best to thank God, and the social circle of closest friends that I have. I'm grateful for each morning, as it is a chance for new memories and adventures. I look for opportunities from time to time to do work and life better.  In the past, it was about money. Money money money, profits losses ROI. It took me like 2 full years to figure out that money is not everything. BUT WITHOUT MONEY, YOU CAN'T DO ALMOST ANYTHING. Money become less important when you have enough for yourself, and for the people around you. That said, I'm happy financially where am. Enough to be confident about life goals. Life goals like growing and building people up around my social circle. Starting a family, having a kid, retiring...

I am recording some key decisions that I have made this year that has drastically shaped me and continue my journey towards self-growth and productivity: I got Stoic Philosophy to guide me  I believe that people in Greece at one point in time were better at using their minds, the Ancient Greece were really a thriving culture. Which means more people had the ability work on their minds instead of living in an overworked and underpaid society that we are living in today. I truly believe that Stoicism is very applicable at this day and age, especially when my mind gets drifted into a bad place, and at times not be aware of it because we live in an age alongside the internet. However, thanks to the internet, I found stoicism to be a very practical way to define and rebuild my principles. I'm using stoic philosophy to reason my way to get out of my bad habits and do away with bad thought patterns. Living life with virtues, courage and temperance feels like a good change for me. Aft...